Heal the wounds
that block love.

"Like 10 years of therapy in 10 sessions."

Secure Love

Attachment Healing

Somatic Work

Mother & Father Wound

Nervous System Repair

Secure Love • Attachment Healing • Somatic Work • Mother & Father Wound • Nervous System Repair

THE WOUND

You understand
yourself. You're
still stuck.

You've done the therapy. Read the books. Know your attachment style. And yet something still isn't moving. That's because insight alone doesn't heal the body. This work does.


You feel "too much" when you start to care, and punish yourself for needing reassurance


You become clingy or distant, and the relationship turns into a push/pull you can't escape


You choose emotionally unavailable men, then try to earn the love a safe man would just give


You keep your softness guarded because it feels like weakness — and it's leaving you lonely


You shut down or over-explain when triggered, then spend days replaying what you said


You settle for breadcrumbs because alone feels more terrifying than being unseen

6+

Years of practice

100s

Women transformed

1:1

Deep private work

3mo

To lasting change

"We were on the brink of breaking up. Now we are more intimate than ever. This saved my relationship."

— Mia, Secure in Love™

Della Murphy embodying soft power and emotional clarity through trauma-informed coaching.

Hi, I’m Della—I help sensitive, capable women heal the anxious and defensive patterns that sabotage love, so they can build secure, fulfilling relationships..


MEET YOUR GUIDE

I know exactly what it feels like to look strong on the outside but feel lost, anxious, or "too much" in love on the inside.

I used to overgive, silence my needs, and stay in relationships I knew weren't right, all while secretly wondering if I was just "too much" or "not enough."

But I discovered this wasn't a personal failing. It was a sign of a nervous system and attachment blueprint that needed repair. Once I healed my own foundation, everything changed.

Now, over the past 6+ years, I've guided hundreds of women to do the same: to break their painful cycles, let go of misaligned love, and finally feel safe, seen, and securely chosen in their relationships.


“I went from constantly doubting myself to setting boundaries, speaking my truth, and finally attracting the love I deserve. Working with Della changed everything.” — Sarah

THE WORK

Two paths. One destination:
safe to love and be loved.


For the woman ready to heal her relationship patterns

Secure in Love™

A 3-month 1:1 intensive that heals the attachment wounds, mother/father wound, and nervous system patterns keeping you stuck in anxious or avoidant love cycles.


For the woman who needs to come home to herself first

Coming Home™

A 1:1 intensive focused on building inner safety and self-trust, so you can stop abandoning yourself and begin relating to love from a grounded, secure foundation.

Grounded texture used as a visual anchor for somatic healing and regulation themes.

Real transformation

What becomes possible
when the wound heals.

“Life changing. The transformation I have had after working with Della, now on two occasions have been phenomenal. Not only during coaching, but the skills I have taken away each time to help support myself beyond.”

— Rheanna

"Once I understood the root of it — not just intellectually, but in my body — everything changed."

— BROOKE

"She helped me understand what love actually is. How to feel it, and how to receive it. I am not the same woman I was three months ago."

– Emma

She held this perfect balance of compassion and accountability. I felt genuinely safe and genuinely challenged. Both at the same time."

– Jessica

"I lost myself in it years ago. Della helped me find my voice again. I finally trust myself again."

– KATE M

"I came to Della having done years of therapy. For the first time, something shifted in my body. Not just in my head."

– Sarah S

"After the third session I thought — wow, I've reconnected to my true self. This is who I am."

— Michelle G

START HERE

You don't need more insight.
You need the wound to actually heal.

A 20-minute Clarity Call is where we figure out exactly what's keeping you stuck, and whether working together is the right next step.

FREE — RELATIONSHIP CLARITY GUIDE

Get clear on what you want so you stop settling for what you don’t.

THIS GUIDE IS FOR YOU IF

  • You don’t know what you truly want in a relationship

  • You want a relationship that meets your emotional needs

  • You change yourself to make the relationship work

This guide helps you:

  • Get clear on your real needs, values, and vision for relationships

  • Define your non-negotiables and must-haves in love

  • Clarify what aligned, nourishing love actually looks like for you

Includes 80 self-inquiry prompts to define your desires, needs, values, and standards in love.