The Self-Presence Practice™
You know the insight.
This is where you practice.
The practice that teaches you to stay with what you feel instead of overriding it and losing yourself.
YOUR FIRST SESSION IS FREE. USE CODE, FIRSTFREE
8
Years COACHING
250+
Women COACHED
10K+
SESSIONS
4
Terms a year
The mirror
You know better. You’ve read the books. You’ve done the therapy. You can explain your pattern better than anyone in your life.
And on Tuesday afternoon, when it counted, you did the same thing as always.
You said yes before you checked with yourself. You said I’m fine. You pushed through, again. You lost yourself.
Maybe this feels familiar
This is for you, even if…
You’re drawn to people who can’t meet you.
One argument or conversation can be on your mind for days.
You feel like you’re too much, or not enough.
You stay in sittuations or around people because it’s familiar, not because they’re good for you.
You swing between clingy and distant, and can’t find the middle ground.
You hide your softness, and stay the strong one, because you fear it will be used against you.
Here’s why
Knowing lives in your head. The pattern lives in your body.
Your body reacts before you can consciously think. That’s why the tenth book didn’t change it, and neither did all those hours of talking about it. The next podcast won’t either.
This was never a willpower problem.
The practice
Four steps, in the order they happen
A weekly guided practice in a small group. You lie on a mat, Della guides you, and you learn to stay with what you feel until staying becomes the new default. Then what happens from there.
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Arrive
Come into the room and into your body with awareness.
0 2
Notice
Feel what is actually going on inside with presence.
0 3
Feel
Feel safe staying with the sensations and feelings instead of overriding it.
0 4
Choose
From there, you choose how you wish to feel, and practise expanding your capacity to hold that new state.
Stay with what you feel until staying becomes the new default. From there, you choose how you respond.
The four terms
One practice, four lenses a year
The practice runs in terms, with a week’s break between. Each lens builds on the one before.
TERM 1
Receive
Letting yourself be filled. Most women are practised at giving and out of practice at receiving. This is where it starts. Building inner awareness, and self-connection.
term 2
Return
Coming back to yourself. Meeting every part of you, including the parts you’ve pushed away, and accepting all of it.
term 3
Relate
Relationships as a mirror. Your triggers, patterns and projections show you where to go deeper within yourself.
STARTS DEC 1
TERM 4
Revel
Your relationship with life. Aliveness, prosperity and pleasure. Letting the good feelings grow, and creating from a place of desire and choice.
Your first session free
Free
Come and try the practice. In person and online. Most women return.
Use code FIRSTFREE when you book.
Book first sessionDrop-in sessions
$33
Not quite ready for a full term? Book one 90-minute guided session at a time, and join the term when you’re ready.
- In person Wednesdays, Wynyard
- Online Fridays, on Zoom
The full term 3
$198
7 weekly sessions, 90 minutes each, with the same women every week. Each session builds on the last, so you go deeper into one theme.
- In person Tuesdays, Wynyard
Women Embodied
US$39/mo founding rate
The online membership. Recordings of the core practice to do in your own time, live coaching twice a month, and the community. US$59/mo once founding closes.
Coming soonOne-to-one coaching is also available — ask on your free call.
The work
Start where you are
This is where we begin the work. You can try a group session. Your first is free, or come again for several for $33, or book a full term and cover one of the themes.
Hi, I’m Della. I teach The Self-Presence Practice™ — the weekly guided practice where high-achieving women learn to stay with what they feel instead of overriding it, and losing themselves.
Eight years coaching. 250+ women. Certified Master Coach, trauma-informed. I teach in person in Wynyard, Tasmania, and online.
meet della
FROM THE ROOM
“I can pause where I would have reacted.”
A woman in the room, with permission
THE JOURNAL
Notes from the practice
Short notes on the body, the patterns, and transformation.
QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE
Read before you book
If you have any other questions, please email us at support@dellarosemurphy.com
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59A Jackson St, Wynyard.
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Yes, there’s free street parking at the venue.
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Fridays, 5.45–7.15pm Tasmanian time, on Zoom. If you’re in another state, check what time that is where you are.
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Relate starts 1 December (Tuesday’s) and runs for 7 weeks. Booking for the full term closes 30 November.
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It’s the same session either way, with the same theme and the same practice. In person, you’re in the room with the group, on a mat that’s set up for you. Online, you join from home on Zoom and lie down wherever you’re comfortable. Choose whichever suits your week.
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A quiet room where you won’t be interrupted, somewhere to lie down (a mat, a rug or your bed), a pillow, and headphones if you have them.
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If you miss a Tuesday, you can join that week’s online session on the Friday.
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No. Anyone can do this, whatever your age, fitness or body.
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That’s okay. Feelings come up when you stop pushing them down. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone. It’s welcomed in this space.
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Knowing lives in your head. The pattern lives in your body. This isn’t another thing to learn. You lie on a mat, I guide you, and you practise staying with what you feel instead of overriding it.
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No, it’s guided somatic practice. I’m a Certified Master Coach and trauma-informed. The practice builds a sense of safety in your body, and it doesn’t analyse your trauma. If you’re seeing a therapist, it can run alongside that. If you’re in crisis right now, this isn’t the right place to start. Please talk to your GP, or call Lifeline on 13 11 14, any time of day or night.
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The term is 7 weekly sessions with the same small group, for $198. Most people do all four terms. In a term, each session builds on the last. A drop-in is one session for $33, so you can get a taste, before committing to a full term.
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Up to 12 in the room and up to 12 online.
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No. You can start with any term. Every session uses the same four steps, so you can start wherever you are.
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No. Once you book, your spot is held for you, so I can’t offer it to anyone else. If you’re not sure the practice is for you, start with the free session or a drop-in.
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The sessions are live, weekly and in a small group. Women Embodied is my online membership: live coaching twice a month, guided practices and the community, for US$39 a month at the founding rate.
At 26 I had everything I was told would make me happy.
None of it worked.
This is how I found the thing that did.