Embodiment and Relationship Coaching

For ambitious, emotionally intelligent women ready to feel secure and chosen in love.

Secure Love

Attachment Healing

Pattern Rewiring

Nervous System

Secure Love • Attachment Healing • Pattern Rewiring • Nervous System •

THE PATTTERN

If this sounds familiar,
you're in the right place.


You can see yourself becoming clingy or distant and still can't make yourself stop


You choose emotionally unavailable men, and work twice as hard trying to earn what a safe man would simply give


You keep your softness hidden because somewhere along the way, needing someone felt dangerous


You over-explain, shut down, or spiral after conflict, and spend days replaying what you should have said


You feel "too much" the moment you start to care, and then punish yourself for having needs at all


You stay longer than you should because your nervous system still calls this familiar

6+

Years of practice

100s

Women transformed

1:1

Deep private work

3mo

To lasting change

"We were on the brink of breaking up. Now we are more intimate than ever. This saved my relationship."

— Mia, Secure in Love™

Della Murphy embodying soft power and emotional clarity through trauma-informed coaching.

You don't need more understanding.
Understanding why you do it doesn't stop you doing it.

THE WORK

Insight is the beginning, not the destination. Understanding why you do something doesn't automatically change what your nervous system does when he goes quiet, when he pulls away, when love starts to feel real enough to lose.

That's because the patterns you're living aren't stored memories waiting to be released.

They're predictions — automatic, unconscious, firing faster than thought. Your nervous system got very good at anticipating danger in love, based on everything it experienced before you had words for any of it.

It learned to protect you. Brilliantly. The protection just doesn't know it's safe to stand down.

The work we do together doesn't ask you to think differently about love. It gives your nervous system new experiences — of safety, of regulation, of what it feels like to stay in your body when things get hard. Repeated enough times, those experiences become the new normal.

Two Ways We Can Work Together

Choose the container
that's right for where you are.

  • For the woman who is ready for deep, private, tailored transformation.

    EXPLORE SECURE IN LOVE™

  • For the woman who is ready to do this work inside a community of women doing the same.

    The Secure Woman™ begins 1st August — secure your place now.

    EXPLORE THE SECURE WOMAN™

Della Murphy embodying soft power and emotional clarity through trauma-informed coaching.

Hi, I’m Della—I help sensitive, capable women who feel confident in every area of life — except relationships.

MEET YOUR GUIDE

For years, I struggled with anxious attachment, overgiving, emotional burnout, and relationships that left me feeling unseen and unchosen.

I thought I just needed better communication, more self-awareness, or to “stop being so emotional.”

But the real issue wasn’t mindset alone.

It was a nervous system wired around fear, inconsistency, and emotional survival.

When I learned how to heal attachment patterns at the body level, everything changed:

  • my relationships

  • my boundaries

  • my self-trust

  • my ability to receive healthy love

Now, for over 6 years, I’ve helped hundreds of women break the same painful cycles and create secure, emotionally healthy relationships.


“I went from constantly doubting myself to setting boundaries, speaking my truth, and finally attracting the love I deserve. Working with Della changed everything.” — Sarah

Grounded texture used as a visual anchor for somatic healing and regulation themes.

Real transformation

What becomes possible
when you break the patterns.

“Life changing. The transformation I have had after working with Della, now on two occasions have been phenomenal. Not only during coaching, but the skills I have taken away each time to help support myself beyond.”

— Rheanna

"Once I understood the root of it — not just intellectually, but in my body — everything changed."

— BROOKE

"She helped me understand what love actually is. How to feel it, and how to receive it. I am not the same woman I was three months ago."

– Emma

She held this perfect balance of compassion and accountability. I felt genuinely safe and genuinely challenged. Both at the same time."

– Jessica

"I lost myself in it years ago. Della helped me find my voice again. I finally trust myself again."

– KATE M

"I came to Della having done years of therapy. For the first time, something shifted in my body. Not just in my head."

– Sarah S

"After the third session I thought — wow, I've reconnected to my true self. This is who I am."

— Michelle G

START HERE

You don't need more insight.
You need to actually rewire the patterns.

A 20-minute Clarity Call is where we figure out exactly what's keeping you stuck, and whether working together is the right next step.

FREE — RELATIONSHIP CLARITY GUIDE

Get clear on what you want so you stop settling for what you don’t.

THIS GUIDE IS FOR YOU IF

  • You don’t know what you truly want in a relationship

  • You want a relationship that meets your emotional needs

  • You change yourself to make the relationship work

This guide helps you:

  • Get clear on your real needs, values, and vision for relationships

  • Define your non-negotiables and must-haves in love

  • Clarify what aligned, nourishing love actually looks like for you

Includes 80 self-inquiry prompts to define your desires, needs, values, and standards in love.